We’re supposed to be happy all the time, right? Actually we’re not.
Life involves pain. Divorce, loss, money issues, bullying, relationship problems, work stress, these are all part of life. When we believe this myth, we believe we’re supposed to be feeling great even during a difficult time, if we aren’t then there must be something wrong with us.
Debunking the myth
When you’re going through a rough time, don’t beat yourself up. Negative thoughts can easily fill our heads in times of stress, distract yourself temporarily. Take a break and take care of yourself. Eat some yummy food, watch a movie, talk with someone who cares about you, treat yourself, have a nap, do something you love. If you feel like laying in bed all day with a tub of ice cream watching movies, do that.
It’s nautral to feel down sometimes. We all have our own struggles; we’re just really good at hiding them, which makes us feel even more alone. Know you are not alone.
When the crappy feeling passes, the negative thoughts settle and you can see things clearer. What hidden lesson was in this struggle? What can you learn from this?
On the other hand, if you’re feeling miserable for longer than 2 weeks and it feels like life is getting on top of you, then it could help to talk with your local doctor or a professional. I’ve been there and speaking to someone who knows how to really help was the best thing I could’ve done.
It's ok to feel miserable sometimes, don’t be hard on yourself and know you're not alone. These feelings will pass, look for the lesson, be kind to yourself and you’ll be back to you’re awesome self in no time.
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